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Having a second baby…how hard could it be?

Having a second baby…how hard could it be?

After struggling with infertility, we welcomed our first son, Aram (Air-Uhm) Jordan Osterbur into our family on January 19, 2012. Life as we knew it was changed forever and in a very challenging yet amazing way. Together, my husband Adam and I learned Aram’s cries, feeding and sleeping patterns and how to coordinate our work and family schedules.

Just when it felt like we had a good grip on our chaotic masterpiece, we discovered we were pregnant with baby number two! Adam was over the moon excited and I was well, very happy but also felt overwhelmed, scared and nervous. I was finally in a place where I felt confident as a working mommy and then, hello curve ball. Please don’t misunderstand, I was incredibly grateful and felt very blessed that God had chosen us to be parents to this new life, but the thought of two babies under the age of two was a bit much to take in at first.

Baby number two was slated to arrive on December 7th. You know, otherwise known as the very accurate due date. Well the very accurate due date shifted rapidly as I was getting ready to come into the office on the Friday after Thanksgiving, I sprung a leak.

Several hours later, Andrew Thomas joined our family and just like that, my heart grew and I was in love all over again. All of those fears of becoming a mom again faded and our happiness was topped off when Aram met his brother for the first time with excitement.

Throughout the pregnancy when people learned that we would have two children less than two years apart, we either got the “Oh, my babies are 22 months apart and it was great!” or the “Oh, boy, you’re going to have your hands full.”

Seven months in, I have found both statements to be true. Children at any age can be absolute angels one minute and a challenge the next, start adding multiples and it gets even more interesting.

Adam and I have learned to tag team and that sometimes the best method is to divide and conquer. At the end of the day I’m usually a mixed bag of emotions. I never knew that happy could sometimes be lumped in with defeated & exhausted, but it can. Becoming a mother is one of the best things that has ever happened to me and I wouldn’t change any part of it.

As my family grows (not in numbers) I look forward to sharing my adventures of being a working mommy, wife and mother.

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  1. Melissa–thanks for sharing your story–you have a beautiful family. As a working mom, balancing it all is truly a mixed bag of emotions but know we wouldn’t trade it (except on occasional days) for life without kids. Those smiles and hugs are truly the best part of the day!

  2. Beautiful photo of a beautiful family. I’m sure Aram is Andrew’s hero and they will be best friends in the years to come.

  3. Shannon Homolka August 4, 2014 at 12:33 pm · Reply

    Thank you for sharing your sweet story. Your children are very lucky to have such a dedicated, hard-working mother. That photo is gorgeous.

  4. You make it look easy! And what a great photo!

  5. Thanks everyone! I suppose I should give photo credit to the lovely and talented Jenna Bassett with Jenna Bassett Photography. She’s pretty awesome, as you can see. :)

  6. Melissa – Thanks for sharing your story. Beautiful family!!

  7. love the article! The joys will mostly likely outweigh the challenges…FYI, the more you have, the less of change each additional child brings yet the blessings are exponential! If God permits, may your quiver be overflowing….

  8. Melissa — Congrats on a beautiful family. I’ve two girls who are 18 months apart and school-wise they are 1 year apart. Having children that close together can sometimes be a challenge, but I find it a blessing. Usually they’ve been great friends — of course, sometimes the worst of friends, too. Now that they are in high school, they are on the same soccer and tennis teams and they are each others greatest supporters and chearleaders. But, because they are in separate grades, they have their own identity — while they share some friends from sports, they have separate friends from classes. Enjoy the craziness of more than one child, treaure the time while they are young, because I’m finding, as everyone warned me, it really does pass too fast. Congrats!

  9. I had 4 kids in 3 1/2 years. My oldest is 8 now. Life has been a roller coaster. I would never change a thing! Take a deep breath and enjoy it!

  10. At the age of 39 years, I was shocked to discover I was to have another child.,which would make five. This was certainly not planned.,however, we adjusted to the fact we would love and cherish another, as we did the others. The pregnancy went well until the last month .I was so large,could not sleep,eat or find a comfortable position -just so uncomfortable. The Doctor heard my complaints and I was sent for X-ray. Triplets Triplets,Triplets. Three beautiful daughters.Yes , it was difficult,but with friends,family and Gods help we were so blessed..
    By the way, The group of DRs. were also amazed They heard one heart beat! !The girls Sara, Elizabeth and Sandra just celebrated their 44 birthday!

  11. “As my family grows (not in numbers)”…

    Melissa, you’ve already expressed openness to God’s blessings; please don’t shut God out by closing yourself to the possibility of more children! Remember the story of the footprints in the sand….

eight − = 3


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