How to be more likable
Perhaps being popular, good looking, athletic and intelligent worked in high school. In today’s world, emotional intelligence (EI) is key to success in life and work.
According to a recent survey by staffing firm OfficeTeam, nearly all human resources managers (95 percent) and workers (99 percent) that participated said it’s important for employees to have a high emotional intelligence because it helps them manage their own emotions and understand and react to the emotions of others.
“I love the topic of emotional intelligence,” says Sarah Katula, PhD., an advanced practice nurse in psychiatry at Advocate Good Samaritan Hospital in Downers Grove, Ill. “Improving your EI not only makes you more likable, but more likable to yourself, as well. You can actually have more joy in your life when you are more emotionally developed.”
Katula shares some tips to help you improve your emotional intelligence:
- Strive to be your most authentic or real (with yourself and other people).
- Be responsible for your own feelings. When you are able to control your emotions around someone who wrongs you, they end up looking bad instead of you.
- Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and honest with others. Being vulnerable connects us to other people.
- Really listen to others. Ask questions and sink into the essence of who they are through the stories they share.
- Detach from your ego and truly have empathy for others.
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