Key signs your child is struggling developmentally

“Why isn’t my child making eye contact?” “Why do they have a hard time connecting with others?” “Should I be concerned that they haven’t started talking?” If you find yourself asking these questions, you’re not alone. It’s common to have concerns about your child’s development. 

In fact, researchers even started analyzing whether the pandemic has caused an increase in developmental delays. 

Dr. Nisha Kakodkar, pediatrician with Advocate Children’s Hospital, clarifies, “There are many reasons why a child could be delayed socially. They could have subtle hearing loss that impacts their ability to speak on time or converse appropriately. They could have an undiagnosed medical condition, wearing them down physically, or they could have a neurodevelopmental condition, like autism.” 

If you’re unsure whether your child is behind developmentally, Dr. Kakodkar recommends the CDC’s checklist for early childhood development. This checklist provides an outline of expected developmental milestones for children ages 2 months old through 5 years old. 

Dr. Kakodkar has also noticed an uptick in social anxiety among children, often manifesting as fearfulness around school re-entry and difficulty talking to new people. “This may be due to missed opportunities for social learning, putting them behind in their adaptive and social skills,” she says. 

Patience is key, according to Dr. Kakodkar. “Understand children need time to cement basic social skills and deal with their anxiety. As a parent, I too have needed to practice patience many times, helping them grapple with challenges related to being in social isolation during formative maturing years.” 

Whether there are concerns for developmental delays or social anxiety, Dr. Kakodkar says the best thing you can do is stay in constant dialogue with your child’s pediatrician. As a team, pediatricians and parents can help move children through this challenging time and grow to their full developmental potential. 

If you’re looking to stay in touch with a pediatrician without the commute, you can also establish a new relationship with a pediatric virtual primary care provider, who you will always see virtually for ongoing, high-quality care. 

Find a virtual pediatric primary care provider in Illinois or Wisconsin.