4 reasons you can’t break up with Facebook

4 reasons you can’t break up with Facebook

“I tried giving up Facebook, but I was back on in a week.”

Chances are you’ve heard someone say that phrase in the last few months, and they are not alone in the feeling that it’s challenging to quit using the social media site.

To determine why it’s so hard to stay off Facebook, Cornell University researchers looked at data from 99 Days Of Freedom, “an online study on how life without Facebook impacts user happiness.” The study encouraged users to go 99 days without Facebook. Over the course of the 99 days, users are sent surveys and invited to share how they are doing on days 33, 66 and 99.

After analyzing the survey responses, researchers found four common themes as to why people returned to Facebook before the 99 days were up. Reasons included:

  1. Perceived addiction. Individuals who felt that Facebook was addictive were more likely to return.
  2. Privacy and surveillance. Individuals who felt Facebook activity was being monitored were less likely to return, but those who used it to manage the way others think of them were more likely to return.
  3. Subjective mood. Those who were in a good mood were less likely to go back on Facebook.
  4. Other social media. For those who had other social media accounts, logging back into Facebook was less common. Also, those who reflected on the role of technology in their lives were less likely to go back. Those individuals were also more likely to alter their use by uninstalling the app from their phones and reducing the time they spent on Facebook.

“Increasingly, we hear our patients talk about being ‘addicted to Facebook,’ says Dr. Joanne May, director of behavioral health services at Advocate Illinois Masonic Medical Center in Chicago. “Of course this is a significant concern if the time spent online interferes with work or academic performance or relationships with friends and family.”

For those who want to take a break from Facebook, or simply reevaluate the role it plays in their life, Dr. May suggests these tips:

  1. Track your usage for a period of time.  You can then see how many hours you spend on Facebook and can ask yourself, what else could I be doing with this time?
  2. Make a list of what you could do with the time, such as talk with a new or old friend, babysit for a young family member, study for that final exam, read a good book, try a new recipe, increase your aerobic activity or catch up on much needed sleep.

“’Facebook Disorder,’ although not a bonafide diagnosis in the lexicon of psychiatric conditions, can become an obsessive activity and cause of concern,” says Dr. May. “Like drinking alcohol or playing videogames, in moderation, Facebook activity can be enjoyable, after all it is an online community of friends. However, in excess, the activity can limit your in-person contact with friends and family, and interfere with performance at work and at home.”

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  1. I have to admit, I was actually the total opposite with bouncing back to Facebook. I got extremely bored, and irritable with the abundance of over sharing.

    I felt (and still feel) like I needed a sense of “privacy” so to speak. I feel compelled that if a friend/family member has the time to “Facebook” they could take that very the exact amount of time to send a text message or call someone to update them about current events in their lives.

    I always get asked when I am returning, and since I’ve been off Facebook for over a year now, I don’t see a need to go back. Although my theory doesn’t play out as it should. I still feel empowered enough to keep myself away from it. I can use my new found “freedom” to embark on different/new journey in my life. ?

    P.s. There’s way less drama I have to deal with. That’s a winner in itself.

  2. Interesting

  3. I use facebook daily. I do not see it as an addiction. I have family & friends who do not live nearby and I enjoy seeing the pictures & videos, and reading their personal posts, they share. While a text or a phone call might be nice, it would be time consuming for them to individually share with their friends and family who are scattered across the country and even the world. It is also much less expensive to spend time online that to use the phone. It is also possible to network with people of shared interests that I would not have contact with or have “met” without facebook.

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